Week 3: Designer Sex versus Destructive Sex.

Designer Sex Vs. Destructive Sex
I Corinthians 6:12-20

cool illustration if you have a laptop or access to the internet from the location of the group >>>

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Olki4X-da4 (has a curse word at the end... will have to stop it or maybe we can edit.)


THIS LESSON IS TOTALLY QUESTION DRIVEN TO HELP YOU GET A GOOD DISCUSSION GOING. IF YOU HAVE OTHER QUESTIONS OR INSIGHTS... PLEASE POST ON THE COMMENTS.

Soon to be Attached is a more detailed outline (3 pages).. but it would be cool if you studied on your own and came up with answers first.

YOU WILL NOT HAVE TIME TO ASK ALL THESE QUESTIONS >>> MAKE SURE YOU CHOOSE AND HAVE ALL THREE TYPES OF QUESTIONS (1 icebreaker, observations, applicatiosn, prayer)
I like following the S.O.A.P. journalling strategy to help them start using it as they see it used in a group context)

ICEBREAKER QUESTION (everyone answers and choose just one)
1a -- What Classic TV Shows can you think of where the married couple slept in separate beds?
1b -- What married couple’s relationship do you admire most?
1c -- If someone were to pay you 1 million dollars to have sex with them would you do it? (have everyone answer that question then ask the following.) What if they told you that they had A.I.D.S., would you still do it?
1d -- what if whoever you thought was the most attractive super model in the world wanted to “fool around” with you (not necessarily go all the way)… would you do it? Wait for answers then ask… “What if she told you that she had HPV and you can catch it from skin to skin contact?”

OBSERVATION QUESTIONS
2) Read 1 Corinthians 6:12-20 (each one read a verse)

3) How many times is the word body in this passage? (can underline)

4) What different word is used to describe sex in the passage? What does this word show you about sex?

5) How many times is the word sex or unite included in the passage? (can underline)

6) What are some of the reasons given not to sin sexually? (try to let the youth come up with answers)

7) Highlight or underline the word “You.” How many times is it mentioned in the passage. How can understanding “Who You Are” as a believer help you not commit sexual sins.

8) Who does this passage say “You Are” (for the authentic believer)/

9) Do you think when it says “sexual sins” and “sexual immorality” the passage is just referring to sexual intercourse or other stuff?

APPLICATION QUESTIONS
10) How far do think is too far for you to go with someone you are not married to?
(have everyone answer)

11) Explain the progression of “flirting, holding hands, pop kissing, french kissing, touching, touching private places, undressing, sexual intercourse.
Ask them “where does physical interaction become “sexual sin.” (anyone disagree, why?)
Read Mat. 5:28. According to this passage, crossing what line becomes sin?

12) In this passage, what encourages you the most not to have sex outside of marriage?

13) Where will you draw the line with physical touch with someone you like, someone you are dating, with someone you are engaged with?

14) What steps can you take to make sure that you “Honor God” with your body now and even when you are older?

PRAYER TIME
1) Some of you have messed up out of ignorance and some intentionally. There is forgiveness that bring freedom from guilt, There is cleansing from shame and dirtyness. And there is restoration for brokenness. If anyone has already messed up, we can pray now together or one on one later.
2) If anyone is really struggling with peer pressure at school or major temptation by someone of the opposite sex, be courageous to come to the middle so we can pray for you as a group.
3) Our dream is that Soul Purpose would be a light to the thousands of Chicago students. If we are not living by God’s design, if we are not different, if we are not loving people God’s Way, we are messing up our testimony and opportunities for people to come to Christ. Let’s pray that “Everyone” at our group would be great example of purity (1 Tim 4:12)
4) Is there anyone you know at school that you can invite to the Purity banquet and/or parent teen seminar? Let’s pray that they would come. (everyone could come up with a name and go around the circle praying for those people by name.)